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What if you’re not charismatic?
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“I’m just not charismatic enough.” The problem is that it’s simply not true. Charisma is an effect, not a cause. It’s what people experience when they are in the same room with someone who is fully present. Who listens so intensely that they feel “this person really gets me”. Who gives you the feeling that nothing is more important right now than being here in this room with you. Who often says the one sharp remark that suddenly makes the whole room think: “Exactly. That’s it.” That’s what later gets labeled charismatic. The people who are uniquely positioned for this are precisely the smart thinkers. If they stop doubting their lack of charisma and start trusting their clarity, they’ll discover they had it all along. Keep lighting the path, PS: If you’ve ever thought “I’m just not charismatic enough,” you’re probably exactly the kind of person I enjoy working with. The problem usually isn’t charisma. It’s that your thinking is clearer than your words. In my 2 month coaching program we work on closing that gap. Finding the words that make the room suddenly think: “Yes. That’s exactly it.” Because the moment your clarity becomes visible, people start calling it charisma. |
What the Best Leaders Say
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What the Best Leaders Say Issue 9 Strategy discussions often revolve around the search for the next big idea. When performance stalls or alignment loosens, leadership teams frequently respond by changing the strategy in search of that big idea. Yet in many organizations the deeper problem is not the absence of a new idea. It is that the existing one has never been refined enough to guide decisions. This essay explores a pattern visible in companies as different as Yahoo, IKEA, Google, and...
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